Good Words not Conquering People.

When someone loves being exalting and receiving compliments, they are pleased with those though it is not right somehow.

 

There are people with sweet words like honey to our ears, but the truth is their sayings are sarcasm. In order to get what they want, they speak those sweet words without being faithful, among their cabal. This is lying to us and to the other people.

Vice versa, if those words are from truthful heart, it would be different. For example, the words to a girl with attention would be “You are gorgeous and beautiful today!” Those words are not lies and it makes the one feel nice, and pleasant.

 

We sometimes say good words in order to gain or regain a relationship, or we just try to show the attention . What we say is not wrong, but we need to know the attitude of the one who is talking. If you are sincere, hearty and modest in order for others to know and help you, you just need to show your respect to them, which will help you get close to them, that wouldn’t be wrong.

 

People sometimes talk to me: “Dear master, it has been years since the last time I met you, but you are not older. I think you become younger day by day.” If I said that he is truly younger, which is a lie; but he was not wrong and that will not be a sin.

Actually, it is because he spoke without any malice. I know he talked to me like that just because he wanted to wish me health and good. Deep inside my heart, I am the one who understand myself clearly, so definitely I wouldn’t believe his words as it is true.

 

There are thoughts that “white lies” should not be said. For example, an employee is late for his work but he does not want people to know he got up late, so he said that he was stuck in the traffic or his vehicle was broken. Actually, people may know right after you use white lies, but they don’t want to say it out loud. You should speak the truth because if you keep using white lies, it will not be good. Lying brings bad things to other people and to you; so it is better not lying.

 

Thanh Nghiem

Translated into English by Nguyen Thi Mai Thao.